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Reasons to NOT
Come Out
There have been numerous articles
written about coming out in general, and particularly to your SO. All of
the reasons are valid of course and I believe that any of us M2F or F2M
in any “category” would prefer to be open about who and what we are,
free of all the negatives. However, there are many, many reasons for
staying closeted, and they are equally valid.
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Love of family and friends. To come out could or
would destroy these relationships. Contrary to popular opinion, not
all relationships can withstand our gender issues. It becomes a
personal choice to hide this aspect of our lives.
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Career.
Again, many (particularly those who are older) are well established in
careers and putting your CDing out there would halt it from any further
advancement or ostracize you from many of your coworkers. Not all
organizations have diversity policies. This of course could render you
ineffective in your ability to perform.
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Self
Esteem. We simply have not the confidence in
ourselves to put ourselves out there.
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Safety.
Like it or not we are lumped into the category of being gay by homophobics.
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Privacy.
Simply this is our deeply personal lifestyle (if you want to call it that)
and we have absolutely no desire to share it with anyone. Period.
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Comfort.
“I am comfortable with who I am and see no reason to involve others.” Selfish or
fact?
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