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Shopping for your Gurl

Okay my chance for a bit of humour.  Every gurl loves to shop so take her with you even if it is for yourself.  I know from being with my wife that if she likes something I will hate it and vice versa.  That comment always raises a giggle when we are in Sears or some other store.

All the gurls just love the 12 inch skirts, crop tops and 5 inch heels.  So they might be a bit of a giggle in private, but outside is where it counts and the idea is to blend in; that is if you are going out.  Basically, it is dress age appropriate and occasion appropriate.  Make your sweetie sit in the mall and count the number of women wearing skirts and heels.  She will get the idea.  Encourage her to fit in wherever possible.  Drawing attention is a sure fire way to get clocked unless you are 5 foot 6, weigh in at 120 pounds and have the bone structure most women would drool over.  Let's face it (no pun intended) there aren't many gurls who can fit that bill.

So here are a few ideas that will help the cause.

1. Age appropriate clothing.  There is nothing worse than being clocked and the more attention drawn the worse it will be.  Teenage girls are the worst for it.  Avoid buying garish clothing or tight fits.  You can be stylish without being over the top.  I personally look for a soft understated look that is feminine but not going to draw attention.  Keep an eye on trends and you will find that last years trends will still be fashionable.  Buy the latest and someone is going to look.  You can count on it.  Classic styles and looks are best.

2. Okay, every gurl just loves her girls.  Now how many women are 44 DD?  Not many and when you do see them these women draw attention.  Stick to a B or C cup and it will provide lovely contours without being overstated.  Filling the cups is probably best done by purchasing silicone enhancers for around $50 at any good lingerie department or boutique.  Don't waste a ton of money on asymmetrical prosthetics over the internet or shops that cater to the transgender community.  Sure they look real but is your gurl really going to wear plunging necklines?  Let's hope not.

3. Wigs.  Oooo, can I have it to my waist?  Uh... not unless you want to attract attention to your very boyish figure.  Stick to shoulder length.  This is usually the best length because it tends to hide the shorter, thicker male neck.  The other alternative is to wear high collars.  Colouring and styling should be done by a professional salon, probably where you purchased it.  Synthetic or natural?  Depends on how much you want to spend.  Synthetics today are very good and natural looking at much less cost.  Just make sure you get a proper fit; don't buy off the shelf.  The extra cost is worth it.

4. Makeup.  One word.  MAC.  Go get her colours done by a pro.  MAC have a very strong and enforced diversity policy so you will be treated with respect.  Yes, it is expensive but really, she is worth it...  (I know, bad joke.)

5. Jewellery.  Again dont be garish.  Understated is best.  Fine neck chains are far better than a string of pearls although the latter look just so fabulous dont they?  You have to avoid attracting attention to that Adam's apple and neck.  Same with ear rings.  Studs, small hoops etc are great.  Avoid long dangly things that would make J-Lo jealous.

6. Lingerie.  Oh she will go crazy here so you can get away with anything from the skimpiest of G-strings to granny pants that Brigitte Jones would have adored.  The only one who will see will be your gurl and maybe you, so go crazy.  This really is a chance for both of you to have some serious fun both shopping and in private behind closed doors; that is if you are able to handle it.

Shopping can be a lot of fun and what shopping trip doesn't have lunch?  So take your gurl to a quiet cafe and enjoy the time together.  If she is clocked, so what?  I guarantee that your first instinct will be to protect her.  Funny how love does that isn't it?

Well, before leaving, just in case you are doing some "secret shopping" there is a list of size information you may want to check them out here.

Many couples have overcome the problems and discovered a newfound bond that they never thought could exist.  In the end it is all about love and caring.  Shared experiences are a big part of that.