Transgender London

Welcome to the Teen

Glad you found us! I really am. So, let's start with the fact that I have been where you are and there is nothing you can tell me that I haven't done or worse. If you have read about me, great, if not, do so now then come back.

Hopefully you have also read the 'Sex vs. Gender' article. If not, go read it now. If there is any article here that is important for everyone to read, that is it, followed by 'What Causes It?'

Okay so let me take a bit of a shot in the dark and you tell me if it isn't you.

You are having these feelings, feelings that you like girls (or boys) and you just have to dress like them. You cant help it and when you are dressed up well you just have to indulge in a little self love. Am I close?

How about when it is over you have to get undressed and hide everything then you feel totally ashamed of what you have done. So, now you are thinking maybe you are all screwed up, or maybe you are gay. Well put those thoughts away right now. You actually are quite normal and unless you prefer your own sex as love interest or a sexual partner, you aren't gay. Got it? Besides, what is wrong with being gay? Aren't gays supposed to fall in love? Who says?

Oh but your boys say that if a guy dresses like a girl he is gay. Right? WHAT THE HELL DO THEY KNOW? They know diddly squat. I can tell you that you know more than they do and by the time you finish reading this site, you will know more about transgender than most doctors including psychiatrists and psychologists. That is a fact.

The truth is, your boys have nothing to say so they shoot off their mouths to prove to the world that they know something about everything. Oh yeah all those "sexual conquests" are likely more fiction than fact. That is something that hasn't changed in 50 years.

"Oh man! Did we get it on. She could suck a tennis ball through fifty feet of garden hose." Uh huh.

First of all, they really know nothing about sex. They think getting their rocks off is good sex. Wrong. Good sex happens between consenting adults who understand the emotional involvement that goes with sexual contact, and they are prepared to accept the consequences of that. Their concern is to please their partner first, not themselves. Sorry but the BJ out of sight isn't real sex but it is sex; very selfish sex. Your boys are just little boys with big mouths, overactive imaginations, and adult sex organs. They are still little boys.

Anyway, that doesn't help you does it? In a way it does because they are idiots and their misplaced opinions are forcing you to go along with them even if you know it doesn't feel right.

"Gee, if I dont go along with this they will think I am gay." Sound familiar? If you are buying into that line, you are hurting yourself. It is probably time to move on and leave the boys behind because they have a lot of growing up to do and you cant wait for them. Here's a bit of a fact. Within 2 years of graduating you will most likely have lost contact with them. So their friendship is temporary at best. Forget them. Your sanity is worth more than their misguided friendship.

So, your lab partner is just such a hottie. You imagine what it would be like to be with her; to undress her, to wear her clothes, have sex with her or let her seduce you. You just totally love her, so much you want to be like her or maybe just be her. Still think you might be gay?

Look, gay people find one another. Try hanging with them. They will welcome you openly whether you are gay or not. If they know you are straight, they wont come on to you, nor will you become gay by hanging with them. You will find some good honest friendship though and if they know of your little secret the chances are they will protect it too. I have known gay people all my life; at school, at work and socially. I am still straight and they have proven to be very generous, honest people overall.

Okay so let's put this whole gay thing to rest okay? If you actually are gay and transgendered, well, we will deal with that later.

So we have established the fact that you are transgendered in some form. You certainly aren't alone. There are millions of us around the world but for the most part we stay in the closet, hidden from prying eyes; just like you and for the same reasons. We are young and we are old. We are from every walk of life and every culture. Yes, some of us are "out" and that is good. As a matter of fact, a good friend of mine is out and she is a vice president for one of the world's largest investment banks. How's that, a transsexual VP of one of the top Fortune 500 companies in the world. I also have an acquaintance who is a judge and s/he is also out. There is hope but it will be a long time before we are truly accepted for who we are. Maybe it will happen in your lifetime, for me it is too late but, who knows?

What is most important here is that you realize you are okay, that you are normal and you have a lot of value, to yourself and to others. Dont ever let that thought go.

There are more articles here just for you so please read them. Read as much as you can here. I promise you, it will help you.

If you need to ask a question you can email me if you like but I would prefer if your parents knew. I will answer but be aware, I keep all emails to protect myself from false allegations. I definitely will not meet you in person unless you have a parent with you. No exceptions; but I really cant see any reason I would have to meet with anyone except another adult for socialization purposes.

Huggs,

Kimberley

This site was last updated 08/11/10