Transgender London

Personal Bias? An Apology

During a recent meeting of the London Transgender Support Group, one of the members made the comment that on this website, I have presented a personal bias against Crossdressers. I will admit to SOME bias but I would like to clarify this first.

I do not have an issue with crossdressing in general. The Crossdresser is a part of the transgender community at large and in fact, accounts for the greater portion of it. Most CD's are responsible caring people who enjoy their transgenderism. They have a good perspective on both their gender and their sexuality. My problem are the FEW crossdressers who act irresponsibly. These are the ones who feel compelled to push boundaries of gender identity and/or sexuality. It is this small group that often are the ones who can be held up as an example of poor representation of the community to society at large.

Crossdressing should be enjoyed and not be a source of fear. However, for the CD whose idea of "going out" is to dress like a streetwalker to see how many wolf whistles she can get, or to see what kind of pickups she can make is not a good representative of our community. We have seen the news stories of people crossdressed who rob stores or banks. They are not representative of the community, they are criminals and this should be pointed out to the media who sensationalize it.

I have a problem with the CD whose presentation is so stealthy that she dares to put herself on the same plane as a genetic female. The fact is that she isn't a GG and she definitely doesn't have that life experience. None of the M2F population does. She should enjoy her ability to pass and socialize and leave it at that.

I could care less about how many panties and bras a CD has, that is her business and interest, just as my journey is mine. Certainly I have a fashion interest and always have had, but my personal agenda is not to emulate the female but rather, to be the person I am. That person is a mix of both male and female with the female being the overwhelmingly dominant part of my being. That is my personal interest, not in trying to present as female but rather, trying to live it. There is a huge difference here.

So, I would like to make my apologies to any Crossdressers I have alienated or offended. It was not and never will be my intention to do so. I believe that despite the core differences of our actions, we also share a wide range of commonalities that should never be overlooked. Many of the issues we as transsexuals have, are shared by the crossdressing community. We can learn from one another and should, but we should also recognize where we are coming from rather than attempting to force an identification that may not be truth. We have to be honest with ourselves and our identities as well as with those around us.

As a community, we need to stay focused on gender. When we allow ourselves to deviate from that into areas of sexuality or social misbehaviour, we all suffer.

Kimberley

April 2009

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